How to not be intimidating
And wired to zero in on any apparent bad news in a larger stream of information (e.g., fixing on a casual aside from a family member or co-worker), to tune out or de-emphasize reassuring good news, and to keep thinking about the one thing that was negative in a day in which a hundred small things happened, ninety-nine of which were neutral or positive.
(And, to be sure, also be mindful of any tendency you might have toward rose-colored glasses or putting that ostrich head in the sand.) Additionally, be mindful of the forces around you that beat the drum of alarm - whether it's a family member who threatens emotional punishment or political figures talking about inner or outer enemies.
If you miss out on a carrot today, you'll probably have a chance at more carrots tomorrow. Body and Brain Going Negative Consequently, your body generally reacts more intensely to negative stimuli than to equally strong positive ones.
Therefore, understanding how your brain became so vigilant and wary, and so easily hijacked by alarm, is the first step toward gaining more control over that ancient circuitry.
Additionally, you've got to hide from predators, steer clear of Alpha males and females looking for trouble, and not let other hunter-gatherer bands kill you: these are significant sticks.